When you hear or read the words, “One size fits all”, what do you think of? For most people, it’s clothing. Typically, when I see the words applied to clothing, I scoff, thinking “They’ve obviously never met me!”. But what I’m going to be talking about in this article is that phrase as it applies to lifestyle. Specifically, a traveling lifestyle.
There are a couple of situations that recently occurred which brought this phrase to mind:
- A friend and fellow blogger, I’ll call her Lori (because that’s her name), wrote a post about her traveling lifestyle, and a reader commented basically telling Lori that she’s a terrible person for not having a grounded lifestyle.
- A friend of mine wants to live in the same house while her kids are growing up for stability reasons.
- Heidi recently wrote an article about how travel changes you.
These three things happened within a relatively short timeframe, and I don’t know why, but the “One size fits all” phrase came to mind, and I thought:
“No. One size definitely does not fit all.”
Some friends and family understand our Travel Bug to varying levels. Some get it, and wish they could do the same thing we’re doing. Some understand that that’s just how Heidi and I are built, but have no desire to experience international travel. And then there’s the other group of family and friends who think we are making a big mistake by not providing a stable home environment for the kids.
As a rule, I don’t feel the need to justify what we’re doing. For one, I don’t want to come off as offensive, and two, it’s just not worth the waste of oxygen. But I did come up with a list of things to think about if you’re thinking about traveling, either by yourself, your spouse, or your family.
- You can do it! Don’t let those naysayers tell you what you cannot do. There will always be people spouting the conformist line. If travel is important to you, you can make it happen. It wasn’t until Heidi and I made it a serious priority that things came together for us as a family, and we started our amazing journey.
- Stability is a myth. Both Heidi and I moved around quite a bit when we were kids. I do understand the idea of having a home in which the kids can grow up. Part of the problem with raising kids is that they’re all different. They have different needs, personality quirks, and handle change in various ways. Raising a kid in an environment where change is accepted and handled is a huge life lesson.
- I don’t try to convince everyone that we meet that they should sell everything, and move away. But when asked, I definitely think of travelling with family as a positive, and encourage and help others interested do it.
I will admit that in this long-term experiment, what Heidi and I are doing could be wrong. I don’t think so. It’s been almost 3 years, and the kids are doing great. They’re learning so many life lessons, embracing cultures, and broadening their horizons, so I think we’re on the right track. But I guess we’ll have to see how much the kids’ therapy bills are when they get older.
What do you think about “One size fits all” as it relates to your dreams?